DR Z says...
"Ashley is writing in a very psychological, very therapeutic, and mindfulness mindset. This is why I love this book. Anyone who watches my channel knows I barely plug a book. I really love this book, I highly recommend."
- Dr Z
Premiere clinical psychologist specializing in the transgender field.
What Readers Are Saying
I have a feeling I am going to be reading this over and over again throughout my transition.
"I will say your book has been invaluable so far. Informationally it’s been very important but when I’m going through the super dysphoric times it feels like support. Reading your personal stories makes me feel not so alone. I really appreciate both aspects equally. I have a feeling I am going to be reading this over and over again throughout my transition. I’m super appreciative for the work you have done here."
It was so helpful that I think it saved my life
"I just read your book! Kung fu. And it felt like you were directly talking to me lol. It was so helpful that I think it saved my life :) I was in so much pain before reading it. Thank you for you! I don’t have any supporters and having your channel and your book has been a great gift 😊 please keep sharing"
If you've suppressed your feelings and sense of self for a long time like I have, this book will reintroduce you to them safely.
"Trans Kung Fu helped me to identify different aspects of my identity and how to feel comfortable within all of them. I was able to farewell old, unhelpful strategies for coping with my transness because this book gave me better strategies. Ashley's transition roadmap is super helpful and highlights the importance of internal work. If you've suppressed your feelings and sense of self for a long time like I have, this book will reintroduce you to them safely."
It's useful to have this much info in one package...
"It’s a great guide. And funnily enough I am doing lot’s of the practices since I accepted myself. It clarified my feelings pretty nicely and gave me more understanding of myself that I couldn’t really formulate or convey on my own. Thanks for the great read!!! It's useful to have this much info in one package, it's not the most time effective to gather all the possible resources from a thousand little articles and videos."
I’m finally finding comfort and ease in my identity.
"I love your combination of spiritual and practical teachings. I look up to so many trans individuals for inspiration but it all seemed so articulated and glamorized. You’re one of the first to take my thoughts and put them into words.
I thank you so much for that, it’s from you and your channel I’m finally finding comfort and ease in my identity. Keep up the amazing content, it’s definitely helping so many people 🤍"
Helped me broaden the scope of my transition.
"Just finished Ashley's book! I appreciated how transitioning was approached by applying inner / outer / self concepts to it, as these brought me back to psychology courses.
A personal example; I've been focused a lot on my external world to the detriment of my internal and thanks to Ashley's words, having a clear idea of how these concepts intersect and how we can control them helped me broaden the scope of my transition.
You truly give me confidence you put a smile.
"You truly give me confidence you put a smile on my face you also changed my way of thinking. I’m more positive about myself.
I truly thank you."
You’ve shed more light to different perspectives that have really clicked with me.
"I feel most relatable watching your videos. I’m still figuring myself out. But you’ve shed more light to different perspectives that have really clicked with me differently from other YouTubers. Just, thank you :)"
Your videos have been a guide for me and honestly sometimes I fond myself in tears relating to so much!
"THANK YOU for being so open and clear and mindful and aware with yourself and your intentions! Your videos have been a guide for me and honestly sometimes I fond myself in tears relating to so much! You’ve become some what like a mentor haha I wanted/needed to reach out to you personally because spiritually I feel connected!"
Benefits of The Book
Learn radical self-acceptance.
Self-acceptance is the key to moving past your fears and into a state where you can come to terms with who you are. You will learn how to embrace your true nature. Self-acceptance starts with an open discussion with your inner self and acknowledging all the parts of you that need to be loved.
Realize you can be who you want to be.
Once you can feel at ease in your true being you can begin to believe it's possible to be who you have always been and have always wanted to be. This unfolds the beautiful process of becoming the true you. You will learn how to see the true you and begin the process of becoming her.
Expand and contract. Let go and let in.
When you realize that your main opponent is your identity then you can begin to unravel the process of attachment, burn it down, and begin the process of renewal and creation. These are the tools to help you through that process.
The power is within you to become who you are meant to be.
When I first approached personal growth I always tried to become something else. As if I inherently lacked something. Have you ever experienced that?
When I turned 32, I finally admitted to myself that I was a transgender woman and I began my personal transition. Through all the tears, shame, and change I realized one of the most important life lessons in personal growth: The answers to your problems are not outside you - they are within you.
Even more surprisingly - you don't become someone else when you transition. You become more of who you already are.
Becoming who you're meant to be is a process of realizing who you actually are, and then getting rid of all the stuff that isn't you.
I used to let my struggles define me. I've struggled with my anxiety, mental disability, addiction, depression, and the past. While I may never resolve some of my demons, I have found resolve in knowing what struggles to let go of and what to transform. It is my strength from being a warrior that keeps me going.
This website is the product of my 10,000+ hours investing in personal growth. It's my hope you'll find something to short cut your struggle and change your life for the long term.